MARRIAGE TRANSFORMATION NIGHT
What Were You Expecting?
This afternoon as Cetelia was leaving the house, she said something to me half-jokingly with a tinge of seriousness in it:
I expect to see some progress when I get back.
Some context before I continue: we're moving the week of January 17th, we're making room in the garage to store stuff we're pulling out of the house.
As soon as Cetelia made her comment, I thought about this coming Tuesday's Marriage Transformation night because that's exactly what we're talking about: expectations, and how they can absolutely ruin your marriage.
Does that statement shock you? You'd better register for Tuesday night.
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We all have expectations for our marriage and spouse, and that's not a bad thing -- except for when it's a bad thing.
And, from my experience in my own marriage and working with couples since 2002, I can pretty much say that expectations are usually a bad thing.
In fact, expectations ruin more marriages than spouses actually doing things to ruin the marriage (discounting major offenses like adultery, lying, etc.).
I know it sounds crazy, and I don't want you to take my word for it.
I want you to look at your own marriage and see for yourself.
What did you expect your mate to do for or to you for Christmas? If it did not happen, how did you feel about it?
Now, think about the last thing your mate actually did that bothered you. Which one caused more angst: the unfulfilled expectation or what your spouse actually did to bother you?
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Before you call me a marriage heretic, I'm not saying that you shouldn't have expectations. You absolutely should. They're important.
But, your expectations have to be tempered with reality. And, unfortunately, that's typically where we go sideways and wind up hurting ourselves, our mate, and our family.
I want to put a stop to that, and want you to join me.
This Tuesday, January 4th, we discuss and share from real-life examples that will lead to breakthrough and marriage transformation.
You don't want to miss it.
Tomorrow is the LAST day to register for Marriage Transformation night for just $10/month.
On Saturday, January 1st, the price is jumping to $20/month.
Don't miss your last chance to save $120/year!
ps - Cetelia just got home and asked me if I worked on the garage. My answer: "Nope." Another opportunity for an expectation to cause ruin. 😇