Is your marriage dusty?
Dust collects, so you must constantly inspect your marriage to ensure it stays tidy.
It happens gradually, which keeps us from doing something about it. Author Seth Godin says it like this:
While dust can be removed from a marriage with time, effort, and money; it's necessary that we become routine dusters instead of binge dusters. Dust collects, so we must constantly inspect to ensure our marriage stays tidy.
The problem with gradual is that we don't notice the damage until the damage is extreme. And what happens when we finally realize that the problems we face are bad enough that they need fixing? Panic sets in. We rush around, ready to spend money. We put all of our efforts into finding the quick fix.